The beginning of a New Year can be a blessing and a curse. When it comes to letting go of the past, things that upset you, mistakes you made… a brand new year can be the perfect way to tell yourself things are going to change for the better.
But, the problem with a fresh start, is that it comes with high expectations.
Dry Januarys, fitness kicks, ditching bad habits… all come with the best intentions, but are laced with the potential for self-loathing.
So, when it comes to New year’s resolutions, especially when considering our own mental health… we need to avoid making promises we cannot keep and disappointing ourselves.
It’s not to say you can’t have a New Year’s Resolution list at all.
But, this year, let’s be kind to ourselves and make resolutions that not only we can keep, but ones we know will make us feel good.
Here’s a guide of how to make the ultimate New Year’s Resolution list.
1. Be realistic.
Don’t run a marathon before you can walk a mile.
Keep your targets small and achievable.
And your resolutions shouldn’t be dependent on you buying shit loads of stuff you don’t want or won’t use.
2. Be flexible.
When we put specific targets on things and we don’t hit them, it can make us feel even worse. A good rule to observe: don’t let your resolution contain any numbers.
So this year…
Instead of losing a certain amount, just aim to lose some weight.
Going to the gym 4 times a week can be tough to maintain, so why not aim to go more often or if you’re new to it, try out a couple of new classes rather than sign up for a expensive membership you may not use.
Reading a book a month sounds grand, but very hard to achieve every month.
However, we all would love to ‘read more books’.
3. Be fun.
Who says all New Year’s resolutions have to be about giving stuff up or punishing ourselves more?
If you make your resolutions fun, they’re much easier to keep. Visit some new places. Go to the cinema often. Bake more biscuits. Whatever you like.
4. Be you.
New Year New You is literally the worst fucking phrase invented.
PUT IT IN THE BIN.
Don’t try to change who you are for 2018.
Instead, make it the year you embrace it.
If you hate the gym, don’t force yourself to go.
If you love biscuits, eat them and don’t deprive yourself.
If you can’t stop fucking swearing, shout f bombs to the hill tops with pride (well, maybe not around 5 year olds…).
You are you. And that is awesome.
If you can feel even a tiny bit like that by the 1st Jan next year, that will be the best resolution you’ve ever made.